We all have a bubble that contains our standards and limitations. Some people enjoy their comfort inside the zone, and others feel constrained by their limitations. The bubble is not fixed. It can be fragile or strong and expands or shrinks slowly over time.
I used to obey from the outside without mentally processing it. I put all the outcomes in my little box. Whispers told me that I have to follow the traditional culture, customs of etiquette, stereotypes, and even people's stereotypes of me. I don't think it isn't good either. I was one-sided.
One day, I found that I could go outside my zone and gain the ability to distinguish things. I don't need to vent with sorrow, nor be careful to show up, to show my confidence. I want to grow out of the bubble.
This is soft, which is more open to inviting people to enter my world than my previous one. I find the courage that builds me to be stronger and ease in front of people.